Relationships

Je t'aime
Te quiero
Aloha wau ia 'oe
Wo ai ni
I love you!

These words so desperately wanted to be heard. So frequently chased after, yet overused. People want the outcome, but never want to put in the work...

Nothing worth having comes easy.

Now, I don't know exactly what I'm going to write about this subject but I can't help but look around and see people's desire for a relationship all around me.

Love is such a beautiful thing and the sight of it makes me happy inside but few are mature enough or willing to really make it become it's true potential, and this applies to all ages, races, and genders.

My first problem is WE ARE ALWAYS POINTING THE FINGER at the other sex and saying it's THEIR fault relationships aren't lasting...

Come on now guys.
Let's take some responsibility.

&& if you don't want to say it--I will. On behalf of ALL of us.

Some "men" and "women" don't appreciate a GOOD thing when they have it. It seems to me that without a doubt it's ALWAYS a "good" person with a "bad"--one feeling unappreciated and trying to make it work. While the other is constantly taking advantage of that person's heart. I've seen this in BOTH sexes so we can stop saying it's JUST girls who experience this OR JUST boys.

Another thing I see is people "claiming" they want a solid person but they either
1) play games until they're "ready" to be in a relationship in the meantime the other person shouldn't date anyone
2) cheat on the person and continue to expect to be forgiven by the person

and this is not okay.
One of the issues is--WOMEN HAVE STOPPED BEING WOMEN. we have stopped demanding respect for ourselves because we OURSELVES don't respect ourselves.

YOU TEACH SOMEONE HOW TO TREAT YOU.
if someone is dogging you and they continue to--you need to look at YOURSELF and wonder why THEY think this is okay.

Women have accepted half-ass relationships being
"the other women"
or just "friends with benefits" because their significant other wants to "have fun", "be young" etc

(this is true for men too. some girls play this same role on guys)

PEOPLE HAVE BECAME PICKY AND GREEDY AS HELL!
we have this GREAT person right before our eyes but don't stay with them (or faithful) because we think we can find someone with more money, a nicer car, a better job, a better education, better teeth, better shoes, bigger ass, bigger chest, more tattoos....all this materialistic IRRELEVANT shit.

It's ridiculous! LOOK AT THE PERSON'S HEART.

Another thing I see--is everyone is depending on the OTHER person to save them from their life.

some guys think they need a woman to become a man
and some women think they need a man to feel love.

We spend all this time searching for love and affection from an outer source and wonder why when the break-up comes, we feel so alone.

it's because you've allowed someone to give you your self worth!

The first and BIGGEST problem I see in all relationships is no one has SELF LOVE.
They don't even know what that is,
and the outcome of a person that doesn't know how to love themselves is a person that doesn't know how to love other people!

You ATTRACT the person you are with and vice versa--so deep down inside, subconsciously your ego WANTED this...

if you don't love yourself--you're going to attract someone who doesn't love themselves, most likely and you are BOTH going to be dependent on each other for love because you aren't recieving that from any other source.

You need to be happy by yourself FIRST to be able to build...to know who YOU are. to know what YOU value.

you know more about that person than you know about yourself.
your TRUE self.
your inner self.

You chase and chase and chase to find this thing that you already obtain.

So many people hop from one relationship to another to another to another...to help them get over an ex and the pain and it NEVER works. deep down that pain STILL needs to be dealt with.

If everyone loved themselves
no one would accept selfish lovers
abusive relationships
being the person on the side of someone ELSE's relationship.

We say I love you too quickly...we don't even KNOW the person to know who or what we are loving.

You love the "idea" about love. it doesn't matter who's in that position, giving you the idea. You just like the lil' butterfly feeling.

Love is SO MUCH DEEPER than that.
When you love someone you love that person's heart
being
spirit.

You don't let little arguments blow up into bigger issues.
You don't let things build up.
You aren't afraid to communicate.
You aren't afraid to dream together.
You don't hold back.
You are free TOGETHER.

You both brings something to EACH OTHER that helps you BOTH grow.
A REAL relationship NEVER GETS BORING.
you don't let it--because everyday
day in and day out
you give your ALL to them, because you give your all to yourself, you give you all to LIFE.

You find an adventure for them.
You are eager to make them smile.
To challenge them.
To surprise them.

You don't take the easy way out--you work THOUGH it.

People have forgotten how to do that.
We have became of society full of pride.


Prideful people CAN'T love.

They care more about being right
winning an argument
then resolving an issue.

They care more about saying what their ego has placed in their minds
than to stop and think about the OTHER person's feelings.

Prideful people don't look at the bigger picture.
they focus on the heat of the moment.
Instead of saying "this is the person I love"
they say "this is the person who didn't wash the dishes again"...

People are getting divorced over the smallest, FIXABLE things.
Our grandparents' marriages/relationships lasted DECADES while we can't even get over the couple year hump.

Sure there are other reasons for that...
but self-love could fix a lot of these problems.

Before you can love ANYONE.
love yourself.
love yourself so you can love the other person to the best of your ability...

Love to grow.
that's what love is about--GROWTH.

Racism

Such a loaded word. When i hear this word I get so many mixed emotions.
I feel fear.
I feel hate.
I feel despair.
I feel sadness.
I feel guilt.
I feel responsibility.
I feel denial.
I feel like I want to be blind.

My whole life race has been a very hard topic for me to understand as a woman of many "races" and it's was something my heart could never comprehend...how you could hate SO MUCH. THIS much.

I've experienced many "racist" situations, even from my own "races" because I was not enough of one and too much of the other. I always felt misplaced and confused.

I never understood why we couldn't just love.
I didn't know if I was wondering that because I am mixed
or if it's because I am just a human being...

I always thought people aren't born racist--we are TAUGHT to be that way
by society.
racism divides.
it judges.
it assumes.

and it robs us of gettin' to know someone and takes away a lesson their souls could have taught us.

Even times I see people who experience racism themselves, holdin' themselves superior to another race to "uplift their people" and it makes me wonder and question, how does that change ANYTHING?!

You're doing exactly the same thing that was done to you, except now in a perverted way of "uplift" and "love".

I recently watched this documentary (http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/human-family-tree/) on the origin of humanity and it's race.
The study found we started out in Africa, no surprise there--everyone knows that, or so I thought. But what was interesting to me was the journey the rest of the documentary took us on as the other "races" were created and the explanation it scientifically explained of our similarities as a species.

In our genetic makeup only a few parts of our DNA are the difference in our genetic makeup (our race) while there are THOUSANDS of parts of our DNA that make us all the SAME.

We ALL started from the same place...Just because we look different, doesn't mean anything. If you go back into our "family tree" enough you will find we all started from the same place so ALL our family in one way or another.

and with this thought process
it strips away all of the stereotypes because we all have a piece of the race we make fun of or that makes fun of us.

And if that's the case what sense does it make to divide a family?

Am I saying you should not learn about "your" own history? No, please--educate yourself. What I AM saying is don't limit yourself to just YOUR history because ALL history is YOUR history.

The more we learn about each other--the more we learn about ourselves. The more we learn about ourselves, the more we learn about each other.

Because we are WE.
We are ONE.

And I can only hope that WE choose to LOVE instead of allowing our egos to consume us and convince us that being racist towards ourselves is okay.

Racism is a form of "self"-hate towards all of humanity.
and it needs to lose its power.

Self-love is the prescription
and the remedy is unity.

THIS and only this
only love will produce peace.

Peace cannot be without love.
and I cannot be without you.
You cannot be without me.

We cannot be without WE.

H-Y-P-H-Y

LMFAO!! okay im sorry but I just want you to really stare at this picture and look at how stupid this whole concept was!!! I'm really laughing right nowwww! ahahah

But okay seriously, i need to address some things to my Bay area folks--the hyphy movement has moved. it's over--LET IT GO. Stop trying to hold on to it.

Now I am going to say there was one thing BEAUTIFUL about the hyphy movement and that was the free-spirited energy and sometimes even UNITY it brought to the bay when it was compared to other parts of the country but that's about it.

Now it has left a lot of people lost as they are growing into adulthood because they have been blinded to see that this is really holding them back.

Being a "thug" is not impressive. Although I do understand the necessity to be hardcore when you live in a hardcore area, and I have nothing but respect for those who have to grow up in those conditions.

But let's approach this with some common sense. Imagine if everyone in the "hood" stopped killin' each other, sellin' hardcore drugs to one another and came together to bring up the a youth that values education, self-esteem, self-love, questions... There would be no need to be "hardcore" anymore cus you aren't constantly IN BATTLE with your surrounding environment.

You're BUILDING.

Now this may seem like an impossible task, but i mean we could come together and make "hyphy" big in the bay which eventually went national-so why not spend some time spreading LOVE instead of fear.

Let's use our common sense.

So many people hollerin' about money they DON'T have, hustlin' to get money to buy materialistic things that actually make the very ones holding you down RICHER while you continue to struggle.

What do you look like havin' a grill an iced out watch a designer clothes
with no
JOB
CAR
HOUSE of your own (if you rent, work towards OWNing)
Otherwise you're just going to keep struggling
living paycheck to paycheck


The main ones talkin' about how much money they have are the ones who REALLy don't have it. If you have money FOR REAL--it will talk FOR you--you don't have to say shit.

It kills me I see these people hollerin' that "i don't give a fuck" shit, but are quick to go bad on someone--anyone. If you REALLY didn't care--you wouldn't be mad. You wouldn't care enough TO BE mad.

Then these people talkin about they have money will spend so much on a dope fit and go to the grocery store and buy all the food with empty nutrients, chemical preservatives, and other chemicals of processed foods.

If you have so much money why isn't your kitchen full of organic food and HEALTHY food. You guys are so backwards sometimes. Spending money on food that will kill your body sooner from preventable causes because you want to look "fresh"...

Keeping people sick is a business & since you're all about money--you understand that, right? If everyone became healthy all of the sudden so many people wouldn't profit anymore and go out of business. there would be no "necessity" for it anymore.

So they keep you sick to keep themselves RICH.
open your eyes!!

INVEST in an education.
not because society values it, but because you will see truth in education
and give yourself a future you never could provide for yourself
the path you're going....

It's a TRAP.
to have someone on top--someone has to be on bottom.
and yes you could rap your way out of it BUT the mainstream music is no better than the hyphy shit and is designed to keep the population DUMBED DOWN so the elite can own you.

So no your dread ain't impressin me,
your slang
your watch
grill
the fact that you sell crack
killed someone

cus as much as you holler about how free and happy you seem to be
i know you're a prisoner to your own environment
and the sad part is that you think this "cell"
is COOL
and if you escape it--you're a "sucka"
now THAT is smart,
i guess a generation emulating goin "stupid, dumb, and retarded"
would think obviously see SMART, intelligence, COMMON SENSE
as negative

but i think it's time we wake-up...

The Naked Truth

The truth is nakedness. It is nature. It is beautiful. No matter how much you try and dress it in lies, the art of truth's masterpiece is incomparable. Some may feel uncomfortable basking in their nature, in their nakedness, in the truth because it can seem like utter vulnerability. You have nothing to hide with, it bears all. It is loud and proud in love.

Some people have been so used to wearing clothes, makeup, lies that they feel UNlike themselves. They have became disconnected from the natural them--the truthful one.

When the transparency of nakedness is exposed they feel ashamed or turn their eyes because they aren't used to it. They are used to the lies. But no matter how much you put on top of the truth--no matter how much you try to bury the truth, it will always be there. That gracious body of warmth, smooth skin, and golden wonder will ALWAYS be there. It is alive. The clothes, makeup, deceitfulness has no heartbeat. But nature does--it's breathes as one with the earth. The earth is truth.

Those who embrace their truth--walking proudly in their nakedness are looked at as crazy, for being "inappropriate" because of their self-love. But should they really be punished for embracing their natural beauty or should that be a reflection to those draped in extravagant fabrics that maybe their attire isn't as beautiful in comparison to the Godly masterpiece? Maybe there's a reason the synthetic fabrics can't shine next to the light, the curves, the naked truth. Maybe just maybe the fabrics richness are not "rich" at all. Maybe, just maybe, the beauty is not in the clothes--the fabric. Maybe beauty lies in the nakedness. The nature. The eternal truth.